SEX PROBLEMS DECEMBER 2010

CATEGORY : ERECTILE DYSFUNCTION


Q1 ) I am a 29 year old guy and my wife is 27. We have been married for 2 years. We have not been able to have intercourse or sex at all as I believe that my penis is not hard and strong enough to get inside. I have already consulted a urologist and he gave me a treatment with injection. He injected some medicine in my penis and from there my situation has become even worse. Earlier I used to be able to masturbate but after this stupid treatment I have lost all my sex power. Please help or else my wife will divorce me. I love her very much and don't want to lose her. -- Mr. Zafar S

## I am so sorry to hear your story Zafar. I need some more information on your lifestyle. Like do you smoke too much, drinking habits, eating habits and other information. Please feel free to contact me and I will see to it that I help you out. Please don't worry and keep faith, I won't let your marriage break.
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Q1 Contd....) Thanks for your response and assurance. Yes you guessed it right. I am so nervous that I smoke 10 cigarettes everyday and drink whiskey atleast 2 pegs everyday. I work in IT company so my life is sedentary, I don't get much exercise.

## For starters,
1. Please cut your cigarettes to 5 a day.
2. Stop drinking as it weakens your sexual organs. Start drinking RED WINE and eat goat cheese instead. You and your wife both need to drink RED WINE and eat goat cheese together. It will stimulate blood flow to your genital area and I am sure you will heal from inside.
3. Start eating 4 raw cloves of garlic as soon as you wake up in the morning. Please improve your lifestyle. You need to exercise.
25 Sit-ups
25 Ab crunches
25 Push-ups
Pranayama.

Please write back to me on how this worked.
You can search for all this information on popular search engines and you will know.
Best of LUCK.
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Q1 Contd..)
Hi Sir,
You have come in the form of GOD to me..I don't know how to thank you. You have saved my life.. I have improved my health a lot. I feel a lot more energetic and fresh. I have been able to have sex with my wife for 1st time properly now.
Allah aapko barkat de ! Please let me know if I you need any help and I will do anything for you in this life. I am very grateful to you.
God Bless You and your family forever and always.
Best Regards,
Zafar S


## Zafar,

I am happy for you. Please enjoy your life with your wife. Hope you have beautiful children soon. God Bless You and your family too.
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MORE FORBIDDEN INDULGENCE !

Sex can be very pleasurable when we get in the mood, it can give us a great work out and we are able to express our sexual urges or love for one another. Sex is the most powerful way of communication. You express so many things that you are otherwise not able to express so incessantly. A few tips and tricks to keep your sex life fresh and energetic...

Dont Make "SEX" a routine
Sex is meant to be enjoyed ...it is best served slow and spontaneous... it should not become a routine as you do a 9-5 job... dont have a timetable to have sex.Just let sex flow. Don't follow manuals for everything...be wild, unplanned and regular. Know how to get your partner aroused and in the mood for sex, know the signs and signals when you think your partner might be wanting sex, by being more receptive to these signals you will be able to make more passionate love which is more enjoyable that placing a routine on the task.

EXPLORE New Places
Having sex in different places can be exciting and cherishable experience, try out new places as parks, airplane toilets, hotels, washroom and even in public WC, these venues will add a unique rush and a fear of getting caught while doing something which is bad public exposure multiplies the excitement even more. If you are able to have sex regularly in different places the enjoyment will be greater than having sex in the same place.

Sex Toys
Introduce naughty sex toys into the bedroom, sex toys such as whips and dildo's can add to the fun and excitement, if this is a new area that you are looking to probe into then the new toys will add even more sensation to your love life and spice things up, ultimately you will end up having great sex.

Lingerie
Buy lingerie for special occassions.. buy a new pair and ask your partner to help you wear it.. slowly undress... sport the lingerie and then ask the opinion of your partner.. be playful...lingerie that is sexy and looks great, turns you on even more... men are turned on more visually.. so why deprive them ?


Roleplaying
Consider adding new fantasies to the sex. Dress up as different characters and people.Incorporation of such uniforms and costumes adds to the excitement and makes you feel you are making love to someone else, this feeling of being a player or bed turner adds to the pleasure of sex.

Variation of sex positions
Explore the non conventional and new positions. Lot odf guides are available in the local market as well as online stores. Variety is the spice of life and changing positions will help you explore more pleasure points and ways of exciting each other.

Dirty dancing
Dancing dirty with one another helps your bodies get ready for action... When you are out to a local bar or pub then while dancing... draw your bodies together and whisper sweet somethings in the ear of your partner...Whatever path you and your partner decide to take make sure you are both comfortable with the request.

COMMUNICATION
The most important way of improving sex is talking...plain talking... couples who talk more indulge and enjoy more of sex.. See before you enter into a sexual relation a man needs barely 8.2 seconds to fall in love.. but a woman takes time before she can trust you totally. A man needs to give time to the lady and this is eased by talking her into things... knowing her choices and preferences, likes and dislikes !

MEN TAKE 8.2 seconds to fall in love !!!

IT take 8.2 seconds for a man to fall in love at his first sight say scientists !
What's more , if a man's stare is more than 4 seconds then research suggests that he is more than impressed. But if the eye contact breaks 8.2 seconds barrier he could fall in love.... wow !

However, women treat both hunks and geeks alike with their eyes lingering both for similar amounts !! GOOD FOR US !!! hehehe

To reach conclusions, researchers used hidden cams and secretly tracked eye movement of 115 students as they spoke to actors and actresses they considered beautiful. They were then asked to rate the attractiveness of the partner they spoke with.

The journal archives of sexual behaviour reported that men looked into the eye for 8.2 seconds for the beautiful stars but fell to 4.5 seconds for the less beautiful or attractive stars. The female students however didn't differ in amount of time they spent looking at the actors ! Men use eye contact to find out fit and fertile females !

BOYS LIKE SLEEPING WITH DRUNK GIRLS !!

Teenage boys think it is perfectly allright to get a girl drunk to get them into bed, a new UK report has found. For the study, the researchers analysed attitudes of 30 - 35 boys and girls between age of 13 - 16 who had gone to clinics for contraception in areas with high teen pregnancy cases.

50 AMAZING SEX TIPS BY WOMEN & MEN

1. Ask you girl to move around a residence semi-naked, wear an apron or wear dungarees, though no shirt or bra. Just keep staring romantically.

2. During lovemaking it turns people upon when their lady looks them in the eye as good as it conveys, she loves me.. sort of message.

3. Run up your hands on her back, light strokes afterwards kindly kisses up my spine.

4. Kisses me kindly upon my breasts as good as upon my center thighs! It’s usually so wonderful! -Diane Elmore

5. While kissing me, he kindly bites my bottom mouth ~Ohhhh Yeah! -B.

6.He calls me during work in a center of a day, unexpectedly, says "I Love You" as good as hangs up a phone. we positively suffer this, it gets me any time as good as we can’t wait for for to get home as good as reason him in my arms. -Joanna

7. When he whispers to me, or when he cuddles or touches me though me we do it first. -Erin

8. He uses his amorous lips as good as puts them upon any symbol of my body. -Shelly

9. Sucking upon my toes! -Christina

10. He will siphon my fingertips-one by a singular as we’re examination a movie. We customarily do not have it by a movie!!!! -Holly

11. He will travel up during a during a behind of of me as good as warn me by murmur kindly in my ear how many he loves me, as good as afterwards he will kindly lick my neck. -Aimee

12. When she tells me which she wants to have adore with me. -Steph Fremgen

13. There is unequivocally a singular symbol upon my neck which creates me positively crazy. It is a tallness of indulgence as good as ecstasy. It creates want, need, as good as desire. -Alicia

14. One of my turn-ons is when my beloved runs a singular finger down a during a during a behind of of of my neck. Talk about chills. Oo!!! =) -Tasia

15. The approach he comes up during a during a behind of of me as good as pulls me in to him in a unequivocally tighten embrace. we can feel his total physique dire opposite me, as good as feel his exhale upon a nape of my neck as good as his lips. Mmmmm that’s regularly sufficient to send me over a edge. -Leigh

16. With his hands he goes down upon possibly side of my spinal column as good as sends chills down to my toenails. It drives me crazy. -Kathy
Passionate lick upon a lips. -J

17. When we have been during a party, or somewhere where there have been a lot of people, as good as he whispers voluptuous nothings in to my ear! -Nicole

18. Biting upon my ear kindly as good as respirating heavily with groan sounds. -Pie

19. When we have been kissing, which is a lot! He nibbles my ears as good as hardly breaths my name in my ear as if we were carrying sex. -Trace’

20. When we am exposed as good as he kisses me down my back, bottom, as good as a backs of my legs. -Tracy

21. He gives me a full physique rub a physique as good as afterwards kisses all over my body. -Anonymous

22. When he presses me opposite a wall as good as looks in to my eyes, as good as afterwards kindly binds a during a during a behind of of of my neck as good as kisses me. -Molly

23. The a singular thing my partner does which unequivocally turns me upon would have to be how he whispers unwashed things in my ear when we have been carrying foreplay. -Jennifer

24. Kissing a bulb of my knees. -Christi

25. Nibbles - everywhere!!! -Debby

26. All my beloved has to do is lick me. My beloved regularly has his eyes sealed when we kiss, though spasmodic we keep a eyes open as good as glance in to any other’s eyes whilst we’re kissing. We’ve been together for roughly 4 years as good as he can still get me ready to go by usually kissing me. we consider that’s some-more regretful than anything we can consider of. -Michele

27. It has to be a soothing fooling around kisses. It creates me whine usually meditative of them. -Mary

28. My beloved will travel up to me during a strangest times as good as discuss it me what he would similar to to do to me if we were alone. He loves to discuss it me these thing in places similar to church! -Marissa

29. The a singular thing which regularly gets me starting is when he bites me upon a during a during a behind of of of a neck, not as soothing as a small nip though tough sufficient to leave a mark. we do not know what it is about that, though it usually gets my juices flowing. -Charma Lay

30. A smashing lick which leaves me breathless as good as wanting more, many more! -Dorothy

31. His peaceful touches when we have been creation love. -Bonie

32. The thing which have me furious is when my sugar starts during my lips as good as kisses his approach to my tummy! we adore it when he kisses my stomach so soothing as good as sensually. He licks an area around my swell symbol afterwards blows upon it, it gives me crow bumps all by my body. we LOVE IT! -Lindsay

33. He turns me upon when he pays any singular bit of his courtesy to me as good as looks me in a eyes. we know he unequivocally does adore me, it’s a assembly of a souls. -Beth

34. When he looks during me with enterprise in his eyes. His pupils increase so many we could drown in them as good as his face gets so heated similar to he can hardly reason during a during a behind of of from jumping upon me as good as creation adore to me right there. -D K’s Dryad

35. Silk skirt as good as boxers. -Angel

36. I adore it when she brushes her breasts over my body… which drives me wild. -Glenn

37. When she watches me lovingly whilst we watch TV. -Chuck

38. He puts his arm around my during a during a behind of of as good as binds my face whilst he kisses me. -Vyunda

39. What unequivocally turns me upon is when my beloved runs his tongue opposite my during a during a behind of of as good as kisses my during a during a behind of of to arise me up in a morning. -Maddy

40. How as he is in contact with me, hugging me, kissing me, creation adore to me - he is all in to it. He’s not we do it JUST to have me happy, he’s we do it since he unequivocally enjoys my physique as good as being with me. What a turn-on!!! -Doryntony

41. When she removes her hair band, she leans during a during a behind of of her conduct somewhat as good as shakes her hair out so it is straight. All we can contend is wow. It is a good spin upon since it looks so quintessentially feminine, as good as she mostly does it in places as good as situations where we cannot conflict to it (public places, in company, etc.). That contingency be a singular of a reasons it such a spin on, we have to wait for for to react. -Gabriel K.

42. Teasing, in any approach figure or form. -Cole

43. He regularly rubs my feet after we get out of a bath as good as which is a many insinuate thing we could do for your lover. For us it regularly leads to unequivocally good sex! -Butterfly

44.She drives me funny by kindly kissing as good as floating upon my back. It sends chills up as good as down my spine. -L

45. Surprise me by not wearing hoop skirt when we go out. Being beautiful in anticipating ways to let me know adds to a enjoyment. -Nick

46.My husbands’ perfect delight of a cognisance regularly creates me happy, gentle as good as turns me on! The actuality which he is regularly "up" (pun intended!) for lovemaking as good as is so gentle in expressing his wish is a pushing force in a passionate relationship. -Liss

47. My male looks in to my eyes as good as says a many implausible things to me whilst lovemaking. It’s similar to he can get in to my thoughts as good as move me to brand new heights regulating customarily his difference as good as his eyes -P.J.

48. Oh My Gosh! we have to contend which for me, a a singular thing which turns me upon a many is when he talks to me. Says amorous things, like, lay during a during a behind of of as good as relax honey, or we similar to which do not we baby. we find which it creates me get in to a mood all a more, as good as a passion heightens as well. -Jen

49. Just being around her. we adore to watch her dress. -Jack

50. When we lie naked embracing each other wet in sweat, he blows little air on my face and tells me sweet and sexy things... make me feel like a complete woman - Peggy

HOW TO ENERGISE YOUR SEX LIFE ?

Great sex doesn't just happen with a magic wish, it needs to be worked at that too in a shared and sensitive manner. The way to a fulfilling sex life is most often in the mind.

You must be always wondering and remembering the days when you were a teenager. Libido so strong and frequent erections as hard as steel but with time it has all gone.Well the good news is, it quite doesn't matter what age you are at to enjoy fulfilling and satisfying sex.


Start Fresh :

Novelty is the best trigger of sexual desire. If you feel that monotony has crept into your relationship, now is the time to
spring clean and start fresh. Bring back that first flush of romance, set out to woo your partner and try new positions.
Dump your old, comfortable ways and start afresh. Follow the "FRESHERS" approach, approaching each lovemaking
session as if it were your first!

Stay Young :

Bring back that heady feeling of first love. Re-live those passionate encounters during your moments of intimacy, and you
will be surprised there's so much more to discover in the sea of passion. The best way to do it would be to stay young.


Join MUTUAL INTEREST HOBBY CLASSES :
The reason for lost interest in sex life maybe less quality time spent together. This can be easily solved by joining hobby classes of a subject or activity that both of you wanted to learn like SALSA classes, Glass painting, Couple swimming, etc etc.

Tune In :

Cultivate the art of intimacy by chatting, strolling or just holding hands and basking in your togetherness. And remember, a few minutes of peace and quiet together are worth many hours of foreplay. Do it and you will understand what I am saying.


De-stress :

Stress is a major libido-buster and too much of it can lower testosterone levels considerably. So dealing positively with
tension is the best way to get back your libido. Relax to soothing music, get a massage or stretch those muscles - and guess
what? Sex itself is one of the best stress relievers. So fight the vicious cycle by just having sex more often. Consume more dark chocolates in this phase.


Get Fit :

Lack of sexual desire or a distinct slump in your libido could be the result of some other physical ailment. Many medications
such as anti-depressants or blood pressure drugs could most often be the culprit. So talk to your doctor about the dosage and
find a way around the problem to set yourself back on track.


Shape up :

Physical fitness has a major influence on sexuality. Research indicates that regular exercise boosts mood and energy levels considerably. And it has been proven that balanced nutrition, exercise and weight loss not only make people feel good about themselves, but also enhances sexual desire.

Meditate and PRAY TOGETHER :
Meditating or doing YOGA together will enhance the faith in each other and eventually you will start feeling more sexually active and attractive.

Play Act :

Role-playing with your partner is sure to pep up your intimacy. Go for that much-needed makeover if you should. Do away with
old ideas that make you hold back. Pretend you are someone else in bed and lose all your inhibitions. And you'll be surprised
how great it feels when your senses take over.


Go on a Body Tour :

Set the stage for your voyage of sexual discovery with soft sensual music, a hint of your favourite perfume or lingerie and bedclothes in your favourite colour. Get liberal with touch and caress and guide your partner along the sensual tour. Mutual give and take creates a greater feeling of trust and builds a sensual and emotional bond. Also heightens sexual energy like no other!


Enjoy Love-Making BLINDFOLDED:

Drop all your inhibitions before you get into the act. Great sex happens only when you have nothing to hold back. And a positive attitude would go a long way in building up intimacy. Tie a black satin cloth on each others eyes and resume love making.You will be amazed to know how much of each others bodies was left unexplored till date even after being together for so much time.

FEMALE EROGENEOUS ZONES

I LEARNT THESE AFTER A LONG STREAK OF RELATIONSHIPS !

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The erogenous zones are areas of the body that produce intense sensations when stimulated. They can lead to powerful feelings of sexual arousal.

Zone One – gently arousing :-
The FACE :


Often ignored in lovemaking, touching the hair, eyelids and cheeks with a gentle brushing motion can be tender and intimate.




Shoulders, Arms and Hands :
Gentle massage and stroking on these areas can be stimulating and very enjoyable.


Zone Two – moderately arousing :-

The mouth, earlobes, neck and throat :

Kissing, nibbling and gentle stroking of these areas can be extremely arousing. Touch in this zone should be firm to avoid tickling.






Underarms :
The soft tissue under the arms is often very responsive to touch and can be kissed and licked.


Navel and abdomen:

Licking and kissing can be very arousing in this area. Circular massage and stroking are also enjoyable.






The back :

The upper and lower back can be touched in a massage style or stroked in long caresses the length of the back.





The toes and fingers :
Rubbing and sucking toes and fingers can be very arousing as they are endowed with a rich supply of nerve endings.


Zone Three – Intensely arousing :

The breasts and nipples :

Circular rubbing and licking on the breasts and nipples can be very arousing.







Buttocks :


Stroking, patting, smacking and massaging the buttocks can all produce intense pleasure.


Inner thighs :

Licking and kissing the soft inner thigh is usually highly stimulating.






Vulva and Clitoris :
Rubbing, patting, licking and kissing this area is the most intensely stimulating sexual experience for most women.